Ageing
Getting older is something that people of every gender experience. However, for some trans and gender diverse people, ageing or accessing care as an older person can be more difficult than for our cis peers.
This page includes information about affirming your gender later in life, advocating for your rights, accessing services, as well as links to additional resources to support and affirm you.
To develop this page, we worked with the ACON team responsible for the LOVE Project and who lead ACON’s work addressing the needs of seniors from LGBTQ+ communities.
Allies hoping to learn more about how to best support the trans seniors in their life, can also check out our older adults page.
Gender affirmation later in life
No matter what age you are, there is no wrong path for affirming your gender.
Social affirmation is available for anyone of any age, including changing your name, your clothes and hair, and being your authentic self at work, while playing sport, or in community groups. Legal affirmation is also possible for people of any age, including changing your name, and knowing your rights.
Medical gender affirmation may look different for older trans people, depending on what processes you are interested in, and any known pre-existing health conditions. The best thing to do is find a doctor that you trust, and work with them on what is going to work best for you, find more about on our Finding A Doctor page.
Because of this, if you aren’t physically able to do the currently required surgical intervention you won’t be able to update the gender marker on your birth certificate, but you will be able to on your Australian passport and with other government agencies.
Coming out later in life
Coming out, or affirming your gender around others, can feel like a big deal at any stage in your life. Check out our Coming Out page, it includes questions to ask yourself, and some sample messages to help you figure out what you want to say, and to whom.
There is no right way to be out, or a need to come out to everyone if you don’t feel comfortable or safe to do so. You get to be in control of how this looks and feels.
Living as an out and proud older trans person
ACON’s LOVE Project aims to empower lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) seniors to lead healthy, active and more social lives. The LOVE Project has developed a range of fact sheets for older LGBTQ people+ people, including:
And more. Find the full list on their website.
Accessing aged care services
There are a range of services related to aged care, which you may want or be required to access at different points in your life.
The Australian Government Department of Health and Australian Government Aged Care Quality and Safety have developed a Charter of Aged Care Rights outlining your rights as an aged care consumer and how to exercise those rights.
You have the right to:
Be treated with dignity and respect
Have your identity valued and affirmed
Live without abuse and neglect
Have control over and make choices about your care, and personal and social life, including where the choices involve personal risk
Be listened to and understood
You have a right to live without abuse and neglect. You should feel safe, whether you are receiving residental aged care, services in your own home, or other aged care services in the community.
Charter of Aged Care Rights
Accessing aged care services can be challenging for trans people for many reasons. There is no reason you should not have your gender, life experience, and identity respected and affirmed at every stage of your care. If your rights have been violated, visit our Rights and Justice page for more information about who you can contact.
Aged care can include:
Care in your home, including help with everyday life and accessibility modifications
Short term care, such as after a hospital visit
Residential care, such as moving to an aged care home
ACON and many other organisations worked to develop this resource, which is a great way to start a conversation about your needs and safety in residential aged care. TransHub have also developed a 10 Questions resource specific to the needs of trans people.
These questions are important for trans seniors to ask, as aged care services or service providers may have inclusion policies that protect cis gay and lesbian residents and clients, but not those who are trans or gender diverse.
It can be helpful to have an ally such as a family member, friend, or support worker help with this process by making phone calls or visiting services to see if they’ll be the right fit for you.
Dementia
Dementia is the term used to describe a group of symptoms caused by disorders that affect the brain. Dementia can affect memory, behavior, cognitive function, and the ability to do everyday things. Dementia Australia (formerly Alzheimers Australia) developed the resource LGBTI People and Dementia: The Important Issues in 2014.
This resource is specifically aimed at people with dementia, as well as their carers, partners, families and friends. It includes recognising the early signs, planning for the future, how to access and ask for care, and the pros and cons of disclosing one’s trans or gender diverse status.
Dementia Australia also developed a report on the experiences and needs of trans people, which you can read on their website.
Resources
As well as the LOVE project, there are some other great resources out there for trans seniors.
The LGBTI Health Alliance’s Silver Passport is a document that contains critical information about your gender, body, and relationships in one place, so you can have your lived experience and identity read and respected by health professionals and other settings. You are able to obtain a free copy on their website.
Silver Rainbow has a page containing a range of information for older trans and gender diverse people, including events, resources, and links to other services and information.
Our Authentic Selves is created by the Kinfolk project. This downloadable resource covers the rights of older trans and gender diverse people to self-determination and to expressing themselves with choice and dignity.
RACGP aged care clinical guide (Silver Book) is a guide for health professionals that covers common clinical conditions, and general and organisational approaches to aged care across three sections.
Downloads
10 trans questions to ask a doctor - TransHub [ Plaintext version ]
Doctor letter: affirm name and pronouns - TransHub
Links
The LOVE Project - Living Older Visibly and Engaged
Trans & Gender Diverse Parents Guide - Rainbow Families
10 Questions to Ask about LGBTI needs in Residential Aged Care [PDF] - NSW Nurses and Midwives Association
Developing an LGBTI Inclusive Practice Policy - LGBTIQ+ Health Australia
Caring for LGBTI people with Dementia a guide for health and aged care professionals[PDF] - Dementia Australia
Our Authentic Selves: A guide to Dignity and Choice for Trans and Gender Diverse people accessing aged care services [PDF] - Alice's Garage, Kinfolk project
Growing Older As Me: About The Trans Ageing & Care Project [Video] - My Genderation
RACGP aged care clinical guide (Silver Book) - RACGP
Charter of Aged Care Rights [PDF] - Australian Government Department of Health and Australian Government Aged Care Quality and Safety Commission
Trans Pride Australia Allies group
Transgender discrimination - Anti Discrimination NSW
Creating Authentic Spaces: A Gender Identity and Gender Expression Toolkit - The 519
Silver Rainbow LGBTI Ageing & Aged Care - Silver Rainbow
Alice’s Garage resource page - Alice’s Garage
Gender Genograms: A resource for the families of older Trans and Gender Diverse people [PDF] - Alice's Garage, Kinfolk Project
Ripplegrams: A resource to support older people changing their gender identity or expression [PDF] - Alice's Garage, Kinfolk Project
Our Authentic Selves: A guide to Dignity and Choice for Trans and Gender Diverse people accessing aged care services [PDF] - Alice's Garage, Kinfolk Project